THE WOMAN
Proverbs 31:10-31
INTRODUCTION
Today is Mother’s Day. And as we read this passage a number of mother’s guts are tightening as they think to themselves, “I can’t be this superwoman.” Relax. Take a deep breath. Nowhere in this passage does it say every godly woman must be as perfect as this woman. This woman’s standing is not implied to be within reach of all. It presupposes unusual gifts and material resources. This passage shows the fullest flowering of the home. She is not a dud
There is also another side of the coin. Just because we cannot be perfect like this woman is not an excuse to be nothing.
The book of Proverbs begins by talking about unfaithful wives and prostitutes in its early chapters. It also discusses nagging wives and the negative affect they have on their respective husbands. Then Proverbs ends with this essay on the wife of noble, godly character.
THEME: IN ORDER TO BE ALL WE CAN BE:
I. WE MUST BE A TRUSTED PARTNER vs. 11-22
A. Her Unseen Contribution To Her Husband’s Good Name vs. 23
1. Husband’s trusted partner vs. 11
2. The delight of her children and her husband vs. 28, 29
3. She has servants to manage vs. 15c
4. Sole responsibility in her domain which extends beyond the house to the management of her lands vs. 16
a. Deals in the market, where she is a shrewd seller vs. 11, 18, 24
b. Shrewd buyer vs. 13, 14
c. Money to invest vs. 16
d. She treats her advantages not as a means to self-indulgence but as a widening of her responsibilities vs. 26
5. Tireless worker vs. 15, 18, 18
6. Helps the poor vs. vs. 20
7. She meets the changing fortunes of life head-on vs. 21, 25b
a. Thrifty but not stingy vs. 22
b. Owes nothing to chance because of
1) Her outlook vs. 30
2) Her influence vs. 26
8. Has the solid foundation of the fear and wisdom of the Lord vs. 30
B. One Noteworthy Thing About This Woman
1. Although she is married to an honourable man she runs the house and makes the important decisions of the house
2. She is the real power behind the throne
NOTE: The great sadness of this culture – women are not taught to manage a household. (That is demeaning.) “Women must not be delegated to the house; women are to compete with men as equals in the marketplace!”
NOTE: The virtuous woman of Proverbs surpasses men in the marketplace from her power base of the home!
C. Who Can Find A Virtuous Woman vs. 10
1. A virtuous woman
a. Denotes strength, wealth, ability
b. cf. mighty man of valour
NOTE: Only four men in the Bible are called mighty men of valour
a. Gideon Judges 6:2
b. Jephthah Judges 11:1
c. Jereboam I Kings 11:28
d. Eliada II Chronicles 17:17
2. Seems to indicate that few woman approach the measure of this Biblical model of a woman
3. As usual with rare things, the price is high: money can’t buy it
4. There is no standard by which her value can be expressed; she exceeds them all
5. Virtuous
a. Ability
b. Excellence
c. Noble perfection
d. Worth
e. This verse underscores the scarcity or rarity of such women
NOTE: The rarity seems to be because of her power base, her house
D. She Has The Right Relationship With Her Husband vs. 11-12
1. The woman is the compliment of the man
a. A necessary part of his being
b. Eve
1) Help-meet
2) Completer
2. Trust is an essential ingredient in any marriage
a. She inspires “full confidence” from her husband
b. A good money manager
NOTE: When one of the noble Caesars divorced his wife, and was asked the reason for it, he said, that Caesar’s wife ought to be free not only of guilt but of suspicion
3. He will have no need of spoil
a. She knows what he needs
b. She does good for his body and for his soul
c. She makes sure he has it
4. Dedicated to her husband
5. All she says and does is meant to:
a. Support him
b. Build him up
c. Encourage him
d. Uphold him
NOTE: Life is difficult enough for a man who makes his way in this world without adding to that burden a wife who does not understand or support him or compliments him and his work.
E. Her Work Is Her Life, Joy And Fulfillment vs. 13-22
NOTE: To her, work is not requirement or oppression
NOTE: The actual catalog of her daily activities
1. She works willing with her hands vs. 13
a. The detailed account of what fills the hours of her day and the days of her week
b. Along with verse 21, 22, 34, she spends a good part of her time in buying raw material, spinning, weaving and sewing
c. The practical virtues that operate day by day in the common affairs of life
2. Shopping was a daily duty because refrigeration was unavailable vs. 14
3. She rises at dawn vs. 15
a. Makes breakfast
b. Gives instructions to her servants
c. A wealthy and honorable family with riches earned not by corruption but by hard work and shrewd investing
4. She buys and sells land
a. She re-invests in a vineyard
b. Multiplies and compounds her assets
5. She is no weakling who is backed into her role
a. Energetic, enthusiastic participant in life
b. Rust gathers on metal not used
6. Long into the night she works on profit-making projects vs. 18-19
a. The meticulous detail of the work
b. No complaint on the part of the woman
1) Enjoys such work
2) Not a burden
7. She is not so busy with her own household that she forgets the needs of others vs. 20
a. She is not wealthy because she is selfish or stingy
b. Because God blesses her generosity
NOTE: The liberal soul shall be made fat: and he that watereth shall be watered also himself. Proverbs 11:25
8. She prepares for hard times
a. Scarlet also means “twice” or “double”
b. Snow may be rare in Palestine yet even the rarest of emergencies do not throw her
T.S. IN ORDER TO BE ALL WE CAN BE:
I. WE MUST BE A TRUSTED PARTNER
II. WE MUST HAVE THE RIGHT REPUTATION
A. Her Skill, Industry And Wise Investments Pay Off vs. 22
1. She pampers herself
2. She is not condemned but commended as rewards for her hard work
B. Her Husband Is Important Because Of Her Contribution vs. 23
1. Known at the gates
a. (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) I Timothy 3:5
b. Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine. I Timothy 5:17
2. He is a judge
3. A respected member of the rulers of the city
NOTE: One day some women were bragging about their jewels. When the woman of a leader in Rome was asked about her jewels, she replied that her most prized jewel was her husband.
C. She Does Anything She Can To Generate Income vs. 24
D. She Is A Woman Of Strength Of Character vs. 25
1. Rejoice in time to come
a. Laugh at the days to come
b. Not that she trusts only in her wealth and investments to meet future problems
2. A self confidence born of right, godly living
E. She Speaks Wisdom And Kindness vs. 26
1. Not all know how to open their mouth
a. Some people talk and say nothing
b. Some lock up their lips in a sullen silence
c. When some speak it is a pleasure to hear them
2. Her conversation is always wise and instructive
NOTE: The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5
F. Her Goals vs. 27
1. She keeps a sharp eye on how here household is doing
2. She has no time to be idle because there is always so much to do
T.S. IN ORDER TO BE ALL WE CAN BE:
I. WE MUST BE A TRUSTED PARTNER vs. 11-22
II. WE MUST HAVE THE RIGHT REPUTATION vs. 23-27
III. WE MUST HAVE THE RIGHT SOURCE OF STRENGTH vs. 28-31
A. The Highest Reward In This Life For A Woman vs. 28
1. Her children call her blessed
2. Her husband praises her vs. 29
a. Many daughters grow up and are virtuously
b. You are better than them all
B. The Reason She Is Praised vs. 30
1. This verse is the capstone of this woman’s noble character
a. She may be charming as well as beautiful
b. Her real beauty rests in her total commitment to God
c. True beauty is the beauty of the soul
d. The greatest praise: her relationship to God
2. What is not of value in this world vs. 30
a. Favour is deceitful
1) Lasts a short time
2) Used as a deception
b. Beauty is vain
1) Beauty is skin deep
2) Beauty fades
NOTE: History is filled with stories of women who tried to live on in their youthful beauty long after that beauty was gone. While other women sought the permanent things of life, these women lived empty, vain lives that served no purpose and had no value.
NOTE: Many fruitful branches wave before us in the preceding verses
a. Here we see the tap-root of her fruitful life
b. The Biblical description of the qualifications of what constitutes a real woman, a lady
C. Give Her The Reward She Has Earned vs. 31
1. Let her own works praise her in the gates
2. Her public testimony
3. What she does, not what others say about her, makes her the most noble woman of all
NOTE: The beauty of the inner glow of a godly woman cannot be copied by the world
CONCLUSION
IN ORDER TO BE ALL WE CAN BE:
I. WE MUST BE A TRUSTED PARTNER
II. WE MUST HAVE THE RIGHT REPUTATION
III. WE MUST HAVE THE RIGHT SOURCE OF STRENGTH